If they have cheated.....

Why would you marry them? This question has been racking my brain for several days now. My husband and I received a wedding invitation from a dear friend of ours just the other day. And just 3 weeks before receiving this invite, we were helping her uncover evidence that her boyfriend/fiance was cheating on her. We uncovered a lot, including a current profile he had on a popular dating site.

She confronted him and was in the process of dumping him. She was even looking at apartments and houses to rent. She asked us if she could use us as references on job applications etc. She was dead set on breaking free from this loser and now this! What makes a person go from "You make me want to throw up." to "Oh, I love you so much, of course I will marry you"? I just don't get it.

Regardless of what her choices are in life, the bottom line is it is her life. I will not preach to her or try to change her mind. I guess she will learn on her own and when she does I will still be the friend that she needs. It is not my job to judge or tell her what to do. It is my job to catch her when she falls.